After several nights of surfing through baby photos, family medical history, and celebrity look alike photos, we've narrowed it down to three options.
Our philosophy is that since it's my egg, it's really my wife's job to bring the sperm to the party, if you will. We want a donor that resembles her and has some of her characteristics... artistic, kind, smart, etc. We veto features that we couldn't imagine on our child. My wife is peculiar about noses. I'm picky about eyes.
At the end of the day, medical records are the trump card. I already have cancer running in my family, so no need to add any more of those genes. Some things stand out as immediate disqualifers, especially if it impacts a sibling or close relative. Others highlight longevity, like a common age-related disease diagnosed at age 90. That sounds more like a positive, than a negative to us.
Finally, we have our top three.
Baby daddy #1: Might just be the perfect donor. His childhood photos look a lot like my wife. His celebrity look alikes are dreamy. His health record is clean. We call him freckles because of his cute sprinkling of spots across his nose.
Baby daddy #2: A strong choice, but slipping into the number two spot. He is cute, smart, ambitious, with a passion for travel. He's also Jewish, like my wife, and has a clean (enough) health history.
Baby daddy #3: Easily removed due to his sister having a severe peanut allergy. Might seem silly, but it's one hassle we'll avoid, if given the choice. Anyway, if the baby inherits my food allergies, it will already have enough to deal with:)
It's a tough decision. You want to pick the perfect specimen, literally speaking. You want to give your child the best possible gene pool, especially since it's a choice. I go to sleep thinking about it. I wake up thinking about it. Baby daddy #1 keeps bubbling up to the top. He's my wife's first pick, which also makes him easy to favor.
We need a few more nights to sleep on it, but I am pretty sure that we've found our guy!
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